You should always trust your intuition.  Always.  Your intuition gives you clues to things that you just can’t put your finger on–yet.  If you’re reading this, it’s probably because you have an intuition that you may have a cheating spouse.

But sometimes it’s hard to figure out just exactly WHAT our intuition is telling us–especially in matters of the heart.  That’s because intuition is partly an emotional response.  Our other emotional responses can get tied up with our intuition–especially when our emotions run strong.  This can throw anybody for a little spin (or a big one).

The two times that emotions get in our way the most are when we are madly in love, and when we’re afraid we’re being done wrong.  If you think your spouse is cheating on you, you’re feeling at least one of these two things–very likely you’re feeling both.  You can be forgiven if you’re not sure what your intuition is telling you, or if you’re likely to jump to conclusions.

It’s quite possible that your intuition is correct and you just need to catch your partner in the act (or collect your information in another manner).

But that “bad feeling” you get may not come from an outside source at all.  It may be that in your past you have been cheated on, and the experience burned you so badly that the moment you detect anything wrong, you think you’re being cheated on.

Or perhaps YOU were the cheater at one time, and you’re worried about it happening to you.  Then possibly it’s just that you know there is something wrong with the relationship, and want to attribute it to an outside source–when really it’s something inside the relationship that needs to be worked on.

In any case, your intuition is telling you something. But it’s hard in matters like this to know just what exactly it’s trying to tell you.  The only way to really find out is to learn the signs of a cheating spouse.  Then you can keep a close eye on your loved one, using tricks perfected by others before you, and figure out what’s really going on with your spouse.

Atlanta Private Investigator, Eagle Investigative Services Inc. is a full service criminal and civil private investigation firm serving attorneys, corporations and individuals with timely, affordable and discreet solutions to any problem they may encounter. Their skills have earned them the name, “The Creative Problem Solvers”.

If you think your spouse is cheating, you should be very careful how you proceed. If you are like most people in this situation, you will have pre-conceived notions about how you should approach the situation. You might find this hard to believe but, most people DO THE WRONG THING.

So – what is this “wrong thing”? Well, here it is:

NEVER EVER CONFRONT YOUR CHEATING PARTNER

And there are 7 very important reasons why:

Reason 1. Do you honestly expect a lying spouse to be truthful with you?

If they were going to admit anything to you, they’d have told you about the affair while it was happening.

Let’s look at the true meaning of the word “cheat”, from Mirriam-Webster:

Main Entry: cheat
Pronunciation: ‘chEt
Function: verb
transitive senses
1 : to deprive of something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud

Now, your cheater is well versed in the use of deceit and fraud because they’ve been carrying on this affair behind your back and without your knowledge. They have no intention of “coming clean” nor will they share any of their experiences with you. 10 years of experience in catching cheating spouses tells us this is an absolute fact.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking, “Well, he wouldn’t dare lie to me!” or “She would never lie to my face”.

Face facts – they’ve been lying to you all along. What makes you think they’ll change their colors now? The truth is, they won’t. They’ll deny it while making you blue in the face just asking. Just ask the hundreds of jilted spouses we’ve dealt with over the years.

Reason 2. You won’t have all the facts

Because this is an emotional situation you won’t be thinking straight and you can’t be expected to be because the weight of your emotions will cause you to react irrationally rather than sit back and plan properly. You might have found a telephone number on a piece of paper – you might even have seen lipstick on his shirt collar. Perhaps she came home with a smell of man’s cologne in her hair.

None of these things are solid proof. If you confront your cheater armed with only a few circumstantial clues, they’ll lie their way out of them. Guaranteed. They’ll lie just to see how much you actually really do know and then when they realize how much you DON’T know you’ll be letting them prepare for the what we list as the 3rd reason below.

Phone calls, emails, lipstick stains, perfume smells are all circumstantial and don’t prove a thing. They are certainly important, and don’t ignore them. Simply store them as evidence in your investigative arsenal.

Reason 3. You’ll show your hand too soon

When your cheater finds out how little you know, they’ll know what they need to do to cover up the affair. They’ll know how they were almost caught and will find new ways to communicate with and meet up with their lover.

They’ll even try to convince you that it’s all in your head. They’ll try to convince you that you’re making things up. Remember, they’ve been lying all along, and they’ll use their ability to lie to make you feel like you’re the one seeing something that isn’t there. Or, they’ll come up with an explanation that will make sense, even though it’s a bold-faced lie, and then they’ll make you feel guilty for accusing.

Reason 4. They’ll cause you to feel blame and guilt

When the cheater realizes you don’t have actual solid proof, they’ll turn on you. They’ll accuse you of mistrusting them and not loving them enough to trust them.

They’ll make you feel like you’ve invaded their privacy and they’ll act hurt. It’s all an elaborate show to buy them time to figure out how to cover the whole thing up.

You will start to agree with them, mostly because you want to love them, and you want to stay committed to them. They’ll use your love against you, by accusing you of attacking them, and making life more difficult.

Most likely, they’ll use this confrontation as an excuse to leave the house – to “clear my mind” or ” I need some time alone” when in reality, they’re leaving to go call their lover to warn them that trouble is on the horizon.

Even worse – they’re probably going to use the confrontation as an excuse to go spend time with their lover.

Reason 5. You’ll make it twice as hard to catch them in the act

Now that you’ve confronted them and they’ve denied everything and made you feel like you’re the one to blame, they’ll run off and continue the affair the same way they always did. Only this time, they’ll do it with the knowledge your will be on the hunt for them.

Sure, they may quit for a week or two, but they’ll use this time to plot and plan a way to go ahead with the affair behind your back. You’ve already shown your hand so they’ll know exactly what NOT to do. They’ll be on the lookout for people following them, and they’ll be watching your every move and emotion to see if you’re possibly on to something.

But rest assured, they WILL continue the affair.

Reason 6. You might not be ready to find out the truth.

There’s a very slim (1%) chance that your partner will admit to having an affair behind your back. While it’s extremely rare, it just might happen to you. But you must have a plan. See Reason 2 – read it again.

Choose a time and place carefully so you can discuss the affair at length without interruption. Present the evidence (actual hard evidence) you’ve gathered that proves he’s having an affair. Then ask them some very direct questions about the affair and watch carefully as your cheater answers. If you can do this questioning in a calm, collected manner, you’ll be able to spot when they’re lying. You won’t be letting your emotions cloud your judgment.

Be prepared that they might say, “I don’t care that you know. I love this other person and I want to be with them!” Would you be actually able to handle it if your cheating spouse said something like this to you?

Reason 7. You should hire a private investigator if you don’t have the facts

If you don’t know the truth about what’s happening and you only have a few clues, but your gut is telling you they’re cheating – call a private investigator. A private investigator has the skills and equipment to put your suspicions to rest and get you the truth about what’s going on.

You should also talk to a family law attorney prior to any confrontation. Spend an hour with them and get their advice on how to proceed.

You should check your bank account your bank account before you confront your cheating partner. You may find the cheater has emptied it!

You need to make sure you have all the facts before you proceed with any decisions. In
fact, any decisions should be based on facts. Only when you have the true facts in front of you can you make rational decisions.

Confronting your spouse to confirm your suspicions is a huge mistake. It never works.

Atlanta Private Investigator, Eagle Investigative Services Inc. is a full service criminal and civil private investigation firm serving attorneys, corporations and individuals with timely, affordable and discreet solutions to any problem they may encounter. Their skills have earned them the name, “The Creative Problem Solvers”.You can call them at any time at (800) 867-3930

Cheaters need two things to cheat successfully. They need a means of communication and they need available opportunities to meet. The need for these two things may introduce hidden aspects of your relationship that are warning signs that your partner is cheating. Often, the signs will be right under your nose, but you simply don’t notice them. Failing to see any one of the following hidden signs could mean that your cheater gets away scot-free with their actions. Seeing just one of these signs is not usually an indication of cheating, but seeing these signs along with your own gut feeling that something is wrong is a major red-flag that your partner may be running around on you.

As you read through these tips, you may feel the urge to run up to your partner and let them have it. You should not do this!! See here for why you should never confront a cheater.

Watch out for these signs, they could be the difference between knowing the truth and living in the dark:

Your partner consistently arrives home late often saying they had vehicle troubles or they had to work late

Your partner goes missing for long periods of time and has no explanation why

Your partner wants to make your home phone number private, or wants to switch it so that it’s just in your name

Your partner gets a new cellphone or pager and you don’t have the number to it or have any access to it.

Your partner gets either a cellphone or pager and says their employer made them get it

Your partner turns off their cellphone when they are around you and avoids answering calls if you are near

Your partner’s cellphone or pager rings in the middle of the night

Your partner lives only by cellphone or pager, making their exact location impossible to know

You start to receive hang-up phone calls

You start to receive many calls where the person on the other end says “Sorry, wrong number”

Your partner tries to be the first one to answer the phone and hangs up quickly if you are near

You find the caller I.D. has been erased before you have had a chance to review it

You find that voicemail messages have been erased before you get a chance to hear them

Your partner checks their phone or voicemail excessively (three or more times an evening)

Your partner won’t listen to their messages while you are near

Your partner takes a sudden interest in your voicemail messages which indicates the cheater is suspicious of you knowing something

Your partner looks at the caller I.D. but then doesn’t answer the phone

Your partner starts to listen to voicemail on speakerphone, but then quickly snatches up the phone before the messages actually start

You notice your partner changes demeanor on the phone when you are near

Your partner takes and makes phone calls and moves as far away from you as possible when doing so

Your partner makes or takes phone calls at very strange times of the day

Your partner uses a public telephone

Your partner constantly calls you to check your location. This is to ensure you are not out looking for them.

Your partner has their own night out – a night where they are not to be interrupted.

You have to travel and your partner insists on knowing exactly when you will be back

You visit your partner’s workplace without warning and find they are not there

Your partner suddenly develops a common activity or interest with a co-worker

Your partner starts to pay more attention to their physical appearance

Your partner makes excuses to go to the store

Your partner looks forward to you having to take care of the kids so that they can be free to run errands

Your partner starts to mention one particular person more often than they used to

Your partner has a new social outlet but never seems to spend any money

Your partner insists on driving the baby-sitter home

Your partner takes too long to drive the baby-sitter home

Your partner cancels or shortens social engagements for no apparent reason

Your partner doesn’t take you to social gatherings to meet their new friends

Your partner doesn’t wear their wedding ring

Your partner says their wedding ring has been lost.

Your partner doesn’t come home after a night “on the town”

Your partner takes a particular interest in someone of the opposite sex

Your partner disappears when you are at social gatherings

Your partner makes excuses to not attend functions you are required to go to

Your partner spends a lot of time at the mall, but buys nothing

Your partner says they are going to a social event, but the event is canceled.

Your partner is late after being somewhere you were aware of

Your partner is never available when you call and doesn’t return the call promptly

Your partner kills the computer screen when you walk in the room

Your partners vehicle smells like gasoline after they’ve been out

Your partner starts doing their own laundry, the second they arrive home

Your partner does not spend entire vacations with you

Your partner takes a vacation, but you’re not invited

You find deodorant or fragrance hidden in your partner’s car

Your partner starts to tell small lies, which you catch

Your partner suddenly has very strong opinions about relationships/affairs

Your partner’s vehicle has unusual dirt smears on it

Your partner regularly leaves for work far earlier than necessary

Your partner argues that you are trying to control them when you ask questions

All of these signs have been present in cases we’ve worked. These signs apply equally to both men and women.

If you think your partner is cheating on you, you should call a private investigator.

Atlanta Private Investigator, Eagle Investigative Services Inc. is a full service criminal and civil private investigation firm serving attorneys, corporations and individuals with timely, affordable and discreet solutions to any problem they may encounter. Their skills have earned them the name, “The Creative Problem Solvers”.

Being cheated on is probably one of the most painful experiences you could ever have to go through. The loss and heartbreak you feel can cause you to become unhealthy and make irrational decisions. Preparation for such an event can greatly reduce the effects of being cheated on. Use the following steps as a guideline:

1. Your partner suddenly becomes friendly with someone of the opposite sex. Often, this  other person is going through some tragedy such as a divorce, or loss of a family member. Many times, this person is someone who participated in an activity with your  partner that you are not involved in. When confronted about this new friendship, your partner will admonish you for “thinking such a thing”.
2. You find that your partner starts to compare you to other people in your environment often comparing how you dress, how successful they are or some other trait where it appears you are lacking.
3. You notice that your partner starts talking about how someone seems to understand them more than you do. This is just so they can justify in their own minds their decision to befriend this other person.
4. Your partner goes out at night without you and never invites you.
5. Your partner suddenly has a new project at work that will keep them there later than normal. They seems very excited about this new project.
6. Your partner suddenly takes up a new course or activity to which they never invite you.
7. You start to catch your partner out in lies. Sometimes it’s just little things, but often there’s large discrepancies between what you know and what you are being told.
8. Your partner starts to overly criticize someone for apparently no reason. They are simply trying to enforce upon you thoughts that an affair could never occur and this is an attempt to get you to let down your guard.
9. You notice an obvious flirtatious interaction between your partner and someone of the opposite sex when you both are at a social event. Your partner will try to hide these gestures but you will catch them if you pay attention.
10. Your partner discusses intimate details about your relationship with someone else. Sharing personal details is often a precursor to sharing physical connections.
11. Your partner engages in physical contact with someone frequently. Innocent hugs can easily escalate into more torrid physical activities.
12. Your partner suddenly starts getting little gifts from someone.
13. Your partner makes excuses to make sure they can be away from you for extended periods of time.
14. You never seem to have access to your partners phone, and when you do, you see that the call history has been deleted or worse, the phone is password protected. Often, you’ll see that your partner never leaves their phone unattended in case you might intercept a call or a text message.
15. You find that any internet browsing history on a computer used by your partner has been deleted, or worse the computer is locked with a password you don’t know.

There are many signs of cheating, but the list above contains the most obvious signs that should raise “red flags” for you.

You should never confront your cheater based on the list above. To see why, please read this post: Never Confront A Cheater

How often has a woman gone out, spent $300 on new haircut, highlights too, only to return home waiting anxiously for her husband’s reaction – but he doesn’t even notice?

It might not be because he’s unkind, or uncaring, according to a new study conducted by the New Scientist.

He may, and now get this, be suffering from “hair blindness”.

There’s a similar condition called prosopagnosiacs – a condition where people can’t recognize faces – and a neuroscientist by the name of Brad Ducaine has been studying the relationship between hair and facial features such as the nose, chin etc.

Turns out, people who can’t recognize faces use hairstyle to make up for their lack of recognition ability. However, humans don’t consider hair part of the facial structure, and so tend to ignore it when evaluating someone they recognize.

So, when a woman’s husband or boyfriend first greets them, if they’re “normal”, they are subconsciously focusing only on the face. And hence, they don’t really “see” the new hairstyle.

Prosopagnosiacs are people who can’t recognize faces. A person who is expert at recognizing a face is an Atlanta Private Investigator.

They say there’s always some truth in humor. This Atlanta private investigator certainly believes that’s the case:

Atlanta Private Investigators, Eagle Investigative Services spend their days and nights catching cheating spouses and documenting that evidence on video.

But lead investigators at the Atlanta based company say there’s a number of things women should do and should not do before they make the call to a private investigator.

1. Don’t Confront Your Cheater

You should never confront your cheater, unless you want to waste money on an investigation. Once the cheater has been alerted that you know they’re fooling around, they’ll cool their heels for a while. Any attempts by a competent private investigator to catch them in the act will be fruitless, since they won’t actually be doing anything.

Do You Think You’ll Actually Get The Truth?

Remember, a cheater is a liar, and an expert liar to be sure. If you confront them with only circumstantial evidence (lipstick on collar, text message on phone, smelling of perfume) they’ll think of a way to lie their way out of it. After all, who knows how long they’ve already been lying to you? They’re experts at it.

Don’t think because you’re their wife they’ll suddenly spill the beans to you. They’ve covered it for so long it’s almost become a game to them now. They want to see how far they go with it. And, if you truly had that much power over them, do you think they’d have cheated in the first place?

The only true evidence that will get you the truth is video of him with his lover. He can’t talk his way out of that. A licensed private investigator is trained to get that evidence for you legally.

2. Gather your own evidence

Be quiet about what you already know and start to think about ways you can gather evidence yourself. What ever you found that alerted you to something going on – photograph it, copy it or someway make sure you have your own copy of the evidence. The take this evidence and store it either in safety deposit box or in some other truly safe location. If your cheater finds it, you’ll never see it again.

3. Keep A Journal

Nothing fancy, just a simple date and time record of what you saw and where you saw it. If your cheater doesn’t come home until 1 AM document it in your journal. Writing it in a journal means you won’t have to struggle to remember details that could be very helpful to a private investigator when the investigation starts. Keep your journal in an super-safe location. If your cheater finds it, you’ll never see it again.

4. Watch For The Cell Phone Bill

Make copies of the phone bill when it comes in. Then, using different colored highlighters, highlight the numbers you don’t know that you see more than once. Highlight each number with a different colored highlighter. After you’ve gone through a few pages of highlighting, you’ll see one or two numbers scream at your from the page. This is your cheater’s lover.

5. DON’T Call ANY Phone Numbers

Even if you know for sure it’s your cheater’s lover, never, never call their phone number. What can you accomplish by calling? All you’ll do is alert them you know something. Don’t think by calling and hanging up, you’ll fool anyone. When can you honestly recall getting a call and the caller simply hanging up on the other end? The cheater and his lover will be extra-suspicious of any hangup calls and may put the affair on hold.

You might think you could scare his lover into not seeing your cheater anymore. Any threats you make over the phone could land you in the hoosegow and blacken your image in the eyes of others.

5. Check The Computer

Check their Internet history and recently surfed websites. If you find that the history is regularly deleted, there must be some reason for this. Don’t confront the cheater about it. A competent licensed forensic investigator can locate all the Internet history from the computer.

6. Carry A Voice Recorder


You and your cheater aren’t getting along so well. That’s a given. Why else would they cheat? So, it’s fair to say that you probably have your fair share of arguments that sometimes turn nasty.

If you carry a hidden voice recorder, it will accomplish three things:

One: It will capture anything they are saying to you and if they get nasty you’ll have it all recorded for future evidence.
Two: Since you’ll be there, you’re less likely to say anything nasty because you know you’re being recorded.
Three: If it gets violent, you’ll have the recording to play for the police who’ll gladly shackle your cheater.

7. Find A Safe Storage Place

Lease a Safety Deposit Box, or other storage area where you can keep copies of bill and receipts and any evidence you gather. You don’t want to be storing any of this type of stuff where your cheater can get their hands on it.

8. Research The Investigators In Your Area

All investigative firms are not created equally. Some are one-man shows, others aren’t even licensed. You can check an investigator’s license with your State’s licensing board. An example of what a license looks like is here: http://www.eaglepiservices.com/whatWeDo.htm

The next thing you want to do is check their reputation. One easy way to do that is to view or request their client list. An example of a reputable client list can be viewed here: http://www.eagleclients.com

Don’t let an investigator say to you, “We keep that information secret”. That’s rubbish. They can keep the casework they did a secret, and should be expected to, but if they actually had any clients, they’d let you see them, and talk to them.

9. Make Sure They Are Insured

Private investigators can get into sticky situations and one working under contract for you might get into hot water. You want to make sure you are protected by asking the investigator to show you a copy of his insurance policy. Don’t fall for a bond. A bond provides absolutely no protection for you were you to get sued.

10. Above All Remain Calm

Although this is a very stressful time, do everything in your power to remain calm. Find someone you can confide in, a relative preferably as close friends tend to have loose lips and might tell your cheater what you are up to. If you think professional counseling will help, do it. Don’t hold your emotions in as they’ll drive you crazy.

Bonus Tip:

11. Retainer Fees

Make sure the investigator you hire offers a REFUNDABLE retainer fee. That is, if you pay the investigator a $500 retainer, but then decide to cancel the case, you get your $500 back less any administrative fees, which should be disclosed upfront. Most investigation agency retainers are non-refundable, meaning, you pay the investigator $500, that’s their $500 no matter what happens. Don’t get fooled by this tactic. Only hire a reputable investigation agency.

A cheating partner is something that every person in a relationship secretly fears. But why do people cheat? Why aren’t we all built to be monogamous? It appears that we may actually not be programmed to stay faithful and research is backing up that theory.

Studies carried out on both men and women have shown that the first flush of love is actually just a chemical reaction that literally fades after about a  year.

The euphoria, feelings of dependence, and stomach butterflies that envelop new lovers are apparently the effects of nerve growth factor (NGF), a protein that floods the blood-stream a the onset of a romantic relationship.

In fact, the University of Pavia in Italy found that bv the time most of the 58 couples they studied had been together for a year, their NGF levels had been returned to normal. Even if they still loved each other, it wasn’t the same as when they’d first fallen in love.

Dr Lance Workman, head of psychology at Bath Spa University, said: “Research has suggested that romantic love fades after a few years and becomes companionate love and it seems certain biological factors play a role. But while we are a pair-bonding species, there is some doubt over whether this is within monogamous relationships or not.”

If you suspect something is wrong in your relationship, maybe you should hire a private detective.

A recent study conducted by Eagle Investigative Services, Inc., Atlanta’s leading private investigation agency, ask participants a simple question - would you cheat if you could get away with it.