How to Deal with an Anonymous Affair Tip
You just got an anonymous email stating that your spouse is having an affair. Your blood is boiling and your hands are shaking. But how can you tell if this tip means you’ve got a cheating spouse, vs. if someone is just out to cause trouble for you and your partner?
First of all, did your new “friend” deliver any kind of verifiable information? If they gave you information you can check for a fact–such as where your partner “really” is when he or she says they are staying late at work on Thursdays–then this is easy enough to check. If that fact checks out, then you should definitely ask what else they know!
Keep in mind however that, even though it’s a bad sign when your significant other is lying, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re cheating. If your husband goes to the sports bar to hang out with friends for an hour after work, it may be that he just didn’t want to own up to not coming straight home, for example.
Still, it’s suspicious activity. See if your anonymous informant has anymore help. And start learning how other people have caught cheating partners, so that you can have a solid method to go on if you need it.
If your informant didn’t give you any verifiable information, write back and ask for some. In fact, you should write back and ask for any information at all.
This isn’t just because it may give you an idea of what your spouse is up to. It’s also a way to make sure that your informant knows what they are talking about, and isn’t just out to cause you and your partner pain over a real or imagined offense.
The information your anonymous informant gives can be useful here, even if it’s not about where your spouse is when they say they are somewhere else. If your informant knows details about your spouse’s workplace or extra-curricular activities, that is at least one sign that they may be on the level.
Still, if they can’t tell you anything more useful than “I know where your spouse works and I know that he or she is cheating,” you’re not going to be able to rely on them for evidence.
Try and get as much information as you can. You may be able to come up with some questions to ask your spouse that get an alarmed response, or else a ho-hum response. Usually, you can measure the accuracy of your questions by how emotional your partner becomes with their response!
Of course no rule works 100% of the time. That’s why, if you really want to catch a cheating spouse, you need a workable system and at least a couple of tools to do the job.
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